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From an outside perspective, it can seem glaringly obvious what you need to do. For example: One of the first problems we deal with is that our brains will flat out lie to us and we very rarely realize it.Most of us have a misguided idea of how our memories work – that they’re perfect snapshots of a moment in time, recording and replaying everything with perfect clarity and accuracy. Those golden memories of the early days of the relationship when things were better are sharp and vivid and can feel more immediate while memories of all the fights fade quickly… Even memories of abusive or coercive behavior grow faint enough that we can excuse them as being “not having to break up with someone; we’re naturally loathe to hurt somebody we care (or cared) for, even when it’s necessary. And nine times out of ten, what they’re asking for is permission to break up with their significant other…because they can’t manage to convince themselves that they need to.Even now, it’s a fairly open and shut case: he needs to break up with his girlfriend already.The problem is example of why it’s so hard to break up with someone, even when you know it needs to happen, laid out in pure text. Our brains are very good at throwing roadblocks in our way and making us talk ourselves out of doing what we know we need to do.There are some issues that come up that I’m sure I can handle. I like to go out with friends and play games, she’s more a quiet, stay-at-home type. I really dislike dealing with her when she’s drunk.

So, we chat for ages, find lots of similar interests, have all kinds of interesting conversations, things seem to be going great behind the sanitizing curtain of the internet. She’s pretty overweight, but, hell, I could lose a few pounds too. Except when we meet in person, I find out I gets in to everything and makes me nauseous.I want to go out and do things, and she doesn’t, so I feel guilty for leaving and doing things without her.Despite being in a long distance relationship for a few years now, the total amount of time we’ve actually spent together in person, getting to know one another adds up to mere weeks. The prospect of moving in together is rapidly approaching, and I’m totally lost.Every visit, I’d leave not sure if I wanted to be with this person but as soon as I’d come home loneliness and nostalgia set in and suddenly I’m thinking “Well, it’s probably not as bad as all that. As much as I’m a non-confrontational person, I’ve tried to do some prodding about these issues, and I’ve been met with firm resistance. I don’t enjoy our time together in person, but maybe I just need to get used to it? Staying with her is easier, and safer, and better (so I tell myself). If I break things off now, I will have been wasting her time, for years.I can deal with this.” Even though I KNOW THIS IS TOTALLY INSANE. She does NOT think she should have to change for my sake. There’s still that person I’ve been talking to on the internet, right? She’ll feel betrayed, furious, devastated, and the thought of that makes me feel physically ill.

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